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Dealing with the aftermath of a divorce can be a long, laborious process. Basically any fallout of the process for family, friends, or you can easily get out of hand. Some recent articles attempt to provide examples of where you will find the aftermath remaining.

Keep in mind always that you have to come first in the recovery. This is not normally the type of response we think of as selfless but in this case it is just that. Many people rely on you, possibly your direction and as a role model. While you think that cannot be true be assured it is. What they need to see, what you need to feel is that you are in control of your life regardless of the problems being encountered.

You will have to wander through the adjustment period of friends trying to see if they can still be your friend. Lots of items to work through on this. Keep in mind that friends that count will be there, convenient friends will leave. Know the difference and let those friends go.

Also realize that down this dark road a light awaits, it may be a casual date, it may be a blind date set by a real friend. At some point you will want this and will find the effect absolutely wonderful in about every way. Keep in mind you must keep your emotions in control to avoid any hurt as this period develops. Let it be natural, not rushed, not intense initially.

At the most unexpected time, in the most unexpected place and for the most unexpected reason you will encounter your Ex. Judge the feelings carefully when that occurs, do not shy away from them but explore what you take away from that chance meeting. It will help you with decisions on the road ahead.

As Always,

Gay