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A question that comes up frequently is what to do about a spouse after they admit having an affair with a co worker. Unfortunately that type situation is all too common. How each person handles this grief, hurt, loss and despair changes with each individual.

It all comes down to you and what you want to do, how much they want to work out the problem, how much is at stake with children, and how much the loss of trust weighs on your heart. There is really, "no size fits all" in addressing these concerns.

On the Internet, in stores, radio and TV you can numbers of experts willing to provide the solution to your problem. It has been my experience that most of the sources can provide guidelines, some how to plans but cannot reach into your mind. The application, the solution must be within the individual dealing with the problem.
I can recommend a book that is one of the best and probably will help with some general, some specific concerns but you must determine if you need a personal counselor for just you, or you and your spouse. Do you both want it to work? Do you feel trust can return? Answer not just in the heart but in your mind. It takes both commitments to work.

Take some time to think this through, consider what you want, the steps you are willing to follow, read some guides to finally decide if obtaining a marriage counselor is the appropriate step for your marriage. This recovery will not be easy but not impossible either. It all depends on you and your spouse.

Always the best,
Gay